I recently read an acronym for F.E.A.R = False Evidence Appearing Real and it stuck with me for about a week. Isn’t this exactly what fear is? The threat of pain or hurt or failure can sometimes cause some of us to get caught up in negative thinking and whether or not the threat is real or imagined it is still a crippling feeling or condition of being afraid.
What are we afraid of? Well the answers here varies from person to person and situation to situation but I want to remind all of you that FEAR is a self-made prison that you can get yourself out of if you chose to, all it takes is a renewed mind. Think about how the bully is created. I say created because a bully usually is more bark than bite. A bully looks for the weakest link and attacks it. The bully knows who lacks self-confidence and isn’t afraid to take what you own, whether it is property or just self-respect. Once the bully gets over on you the first time, it is very easy for the next time to occur, so on and so forth. So what am I saying? I am saying that if we keep feeding into our fears we are going to create a giant in our lives; one that we feel could never be conquered and one that will always be there sapping us of all that we desire and all that we are meant to be.
I was a victim of fear for a long time. I allowed other peoples’ thoughts and ideas to put a period at the end of my sentence and dictate to me what I was supposed to do with MY life. I never knew that stepping out on faith could have opened up so many opportunities for me but it did even in terms of modeling. I have always wanted to model but was told I couldn’t because I was too “big”. Look at all the opportunities made available now in modeling and in fashion for the full-figured and curvy woman! Someone had to step out on faith to start making it happen. As an aspiring model I constantly tell myself that I can make it out there in the “modeling world” but as a person who has never had a paid modeling job, sometimes I tell myself well maybe I am getting too old, or maybe they are not looking for what I have to offer but I am not alone in this thinking.
Many of you aspiring models have shared with me similar thoughts but don’t give up! Don’t allow your fears to stop you from going for your dreams. I took a little time off from doing photoshoots because I was going to stop modeling altogether, not because I didn’t love it but because I was afraid of what it would actually mean for me if I became successful at reaching my dream – my whole life would change! I would actually be doing something I love for a living and what about if I messed that up? I won’t allow this thinking to get in my way. I am being as open and honest as I can be about this thing because fear is a bully that must be replaced with faith. Faith can move mountains and all it takes is just a little to make it to the next step! So what are you waiting for? Start being proactive in your future today and start now by facing your fears and moving on to being happier and healthier mind body and soul. We must THRIVE! God Bless!
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Empowering loving this….excellent read.
First let me Thank you. I have been battling this thing called FEAR for the longest and now that I’m about to make one of my dreams a reality. Fear and I have been going at it head to head. But after reading and assesing your article I think I can kick Fear Ass. Thank you once again.
Hi I’m starting off by saying that I’ve been told since H.S that I should be a model even now I still hear it… this may sound strange I’m very shy an when people say that to me i get sooo embarassed. Even though I’ve always wanted to do it, its just that what people say is pretty on me I wonder if agencys will feel the same I’ve never worn lots of make up I just wear a lil lip liner and gloss the rest is dove and pray. I’ve strived to never ever look like anyone but me I’ve evolved over the years guess you can call me a phoenix…I would love to see if I have what it takes. if you want to see some pics my fb page is redsiren(I have red n cinnamon hair) thanx for taking the time for reading this
Thank you Olga, can you believe I actually thought about not posting it?! See how FEAR tries to get in the way?
Big n Beautiful – push that FEAR out of the way and move forward…YOU CAN DO IT!! Step out on faith and see where it takes you…your dreams are right around the corner…:) Keep me posted sis!!
Norma Norman – If people are telling you that you should model and you believe that you can do it then go for it! Believe in yourself ane don’t let fear and doubt get in your way…start off small by finding ways to break out of your shyness -like going to an open mic night, karaoke or making a youtube video…something..anything that will break you out of the shyness. Shyness can sometimes feed fear that is why I suggest you start there…you are beautiful now own it! God Bless and keep me posted!!