Divorce rates are HIGH! In fact 50% for first marriages, 67% for second, and 74% for third ones all end in divorce. Are people getting scared away from making relationship commitments because of statistics and what they see happening to others around them?
That may be one problem but it could be something else. A lot can happen in a relationship, especially one that lasts many years, so we’ve identified 10 “worst case relationship scenarios”.
1. There’s been a drastic life change for one or both of you–the severe illness or death of a child, chronic, serious health problems, financial issues like bankruptcy, loss of a job, loss of a parent or becoming a caretaker for a parent.
2. You used to have a great relationship and now your partner won’t talk to you and you feel distant from one another. It is true that relationships ebb and flow and in order to keep your relationship strong, you need to change and flow with it.
3. You or your partner had or is having an affair and there are serious trust issues. Trust issues, especially from past infidelity, can completely erode a relationship–let alone affairs that continue to go on.
4. There’s a conflict of values between the two of you and neither person is willing to bend. These different values can show up in many ways– raising children, dealing with finances, religious differences, cultural differences, and so much more.
5. Your partner says “I’m leaving” or you have the urge to leave that you can’t shake off. In committed relationships and marriages, a person who is considering leaving usually mulls it over for quite awhile before he or she acts.
6. You or your partner has addictions that interfere with intimacy and connection. If you or your partner are numbing yourselves by using addictive substances, it’s very difficult, if not impossible, to have a healthy relationship (depending on the severity of the addiction.)
7. You or your partner is blinded by jealousy. Jealousy, especially when it’s considered “unwarranted,” can kill a relationship very quickly.
8. There’s emotional or physical violence in your relationship. If there’s violence of any kind in your relationship, don’t make excuses for it–it’s a call for help. The best advice we have is to take action to get help.
9. One or both of you are apathetic or bored in your relationship. This is the silent killer that creeps into relationships and usually the two people don’t realize it’s happened before it too late.
10. One or both of you can’t heal after the pain of a previous relationship breakup or divorce. We all carry unresolved emotions from previous relationships and many times, they are worked out in the new relationship.
Okay, so we’ve given you our pick for the 10 worst case relationship scenarios with the hope that you will get a little insight into how to make some shifts for the better if they happen to you or your loved ones.
Valery Amador, Daily Venus Diva -- Daily Venus Diva.
Ladies,
Every relationship in our lives is dear to us. But our marriage has got to become top priority. I don’t care how tired we are from work, or cleaning up the house our hubby’s deserve our undivided attention giving that they also return that to us on a daily basis.
It has to be 50/50, there is no room for 60/40 or even worse 80/20. Communication is the key word here also always put yourself in his or her shoes before you act out or even say something you may regret.
The old saying of treat others how you would like to be treated goes a long way in a healthy and strong marriage.