One day you log into your Facebook account only to find a comment from your spouse on a mutual friends’ page. Do you remain calm despite the fact that your spouse NEVER requested your friendship or do you go ballistic? Your reaction may be the reason that they decided to keep their social networking a persona a secret. The other reason they may be keeping their account a secret is due to the extracurricular activities they’re participating in that doesn’t include you.
Nonetheless, are you okay with your spouse having a Facebook page (friend or not)?
A recent survey by the American Academy of Matrimonial Lawyers found that 81 percent of divorce attorneys have seen an increase in the number of cases using social networking evidence during the past five years. More than 66 percent of those attorneys said the No. 1 site most often used as evidence is Facebook with its 400 million registered users.
Another recent survey by Divorce-Online.com of more than 5,000 attorneys says Facebook is mentioned in about 20 percent of divorce cases.
In fact, spouses cheating on Facebook is so common that Ken Savage of Lowell, Massachusetts, created FacebookCheating.com in 2009. This website was created after finding out that his wife had an affair that was initiated on Facebook. According to website it is a way “to help others cope with someone cheating on them as well as shine light upon someone who is using Facebook to cheat.”
I’m not implying that all spouses on Facebook cheat. In fact, I’m willing to bet that there are more spouses on Facebook that faithful than those who are not. But I can’t help but wonder, What is about social networking sites that make cheating so easy and enticing?
Thoughts?
Editor-In-Chief, Stephanie Penn-Danforth -- Daily Venus Diva.
I’ve seen folks write things like “Myspace ruined my relationship”. People need to stop blaming the social networks and blame the spouses. I have never minded my boyfriends to have pages. I knew that one had a huge female fan club. So it never bothered me what the females would say to him, its about what he says to them. Now, hiding an account that’s another thing. I think relationships need to be open and honest. Doesn’t mean you all need to be friends but at least you should know that he has a page. Shoot, my own momma isn’t my facebook friend and she has an acount and I live with her! lol
This was a real good read and sad to say many people are living this everyday. My hubby is not anti-social but he tells me he has all the friends he needs already and if they need him they got his number. He hates me having my online pages but he understands that I am the outgoing type with so many friends from school, ( I attended two highschools) so yeah I have plenty and of course for the modeling industry.
I get hit up by ex-boyfriends all the time and guys I went to school with that now tell me they always crushed on me.
Well buddy, I am happily married, 38 yrs old with four kids, the oldest grown man heading to college,
its a little to late for confessed crushes!!
LOL
Ladies just be careful much love always.
I do not have a facebook (for various reasons) but have been thinking about getting one. One answer to Stephanie’s question:
“But I can’t help but wonder, What is about social networking sites that make cheating so easy and enticing?”
One thing that always stands out to me when talking with friends and family about facebook is how easy it is to catch up with people from the past – ex-friends, unknown or distant friends or family members and ex’s in general. I like to think that certain people are in your past for a reason….that season in our lives is over and that is it. But I hear that often while on facebook, many people look eachother up reconnect etc….I guess to answer Stephanie’s question – THAT amongst other reasons could be what makes cheating so easy and enticing for some people who frequent networking sites but then again there are many who don’t cheat at all and temptation is everywhere if you don’t keep your mind on what is important…I know that for some it is easy to start something online because it appears that there is no risk but as we all know…the truth always comes to light.