8 Reasons You Should NOT Get Married

Maybe it’s the Sandra Bullock scandal. Maybe it’s because all of your girlfriends are planning their weddings. As thousands of women begin planning their weddings, it’s worth doing the math and realizing that, well, since 50% of marriages end in divorce… make sure you’re doing it for all of the right reasons.

Now, to clarify, if one of the below reasons fits you to a T, that does not necessarily mean you should do a Julia Roberts and become a Runaway Bride. If, however, one of these is the core, primary, driving reasons you’re getting hitched…slow down. Take a few months. Take a year. Think things over, get to know him better, and make sure you’re ready. If he’s the right guy today, he’ll be the right guy a year from today.

8 Reasons You Should NOT Get Married:

1. You’re pregnant!

To clarify, we’re not saying that it’s always a bad idea to get married if you’ve gotten pregnant. It’s well-intentioned. And if it’s coupled with real love and compatibility with your boyfriend, then you have our blessing. But. If the fundamentals are wrong–if you don’t get along, if you barely know the guy, there are other ways you can be responsible for your bundle of joy.

2. You found yourself a Sugar Daddy.

Do you really want to marry for money ONLY?

3. Settling.

When you purchase clothes, you don’t buy the very finest silk from the very finest brand–you just need something that looks good, fits good, and won’t bust your wallet. Same with your home, your car, your tv. Settling is part of life. We rarely get the best possible thing. Your choice of life partner, however, should never be a “backup.” Know your standards. Stick to them.

4.He’s hot.

This doesn’t mean you need to marry a guy you’re not attractive to. It means that physical attraction is a necessary, but not sufficient, criteria for marriage. You need to really, really, really need to know this guy before you pledge the rest of your life. Sex appeal isn’t forever.

5. Green cards.

More sensible ways of making easy money: prostitution, and scoring a government bailout.

6. Everybody’s doing it.

Maybe all your high school friends are now wifey’s, buying houses, and having babies. You’re still single. So you’re starting to feel–for the first time in your life, maybe–a little behind the curve. Okay. Fine. That’s a good reason to start thinking about getting serious, but it’s not, by itself, a reason to be a follower.

7. Your family’s pressuring you.

Ummmm… ? You’re not 14 anymore. Don’t let people pressure you into doing something you’re not ready for.

8. You want a dream wedding.

Who doesn’t want the dream wedding but there are ways to go about this and rushing into a marriage is not the way.