I am all about celebrating your curves as a full figured woman, but does that mean that we automatically have to reduce women who aren’t as hefty as us? The media does enough in tearing down celebrities deeming them as too fat or too thin. Sure Nicole Ritchie had us all glued to every magazine to see if her 00 frame would hold her up, and while we knew that all the partying, drugs and short stays in and out of rehab were unhealthy habits, in the end, she was and still is a real woman. I think the birth of Sparrow and Harlow definitely sealed the deal on any argument that she was ever anything but.
Extra flesh and soft bellies doesn’t make you more of a woman than Ru Paul running around in fierce heels and a mini skirt. So why? Why do we feel like Beyonce is more of a woman than Lady GaGa? I’d really like to hear your thoughts.
Valery Amador, Daily Venus Diva -- Daily Venus Diva.
I think this is such an important discussion. The term ‘real woman’ is thrown about so much these days as if there was such a thing as a “fake woman” (RuPaul being the exception).
You are right to point out that every woman is a real woman — thin, fat, short, tall, stunningly gorgeous, or not so much. Even Heidi Montag who by now may actually be more plastic than organic is a real woman. The sooner we can all accept that, the sooner we can all find peace within ourselves.
I think it is more of a defensive position and you are totally right on calling people on it. We are all real women no matter what size we are.
I’d hate to define a real woman as one with curves. What would that mean for women who’ve had double mastectomies? They are still real women.
I think we have to move away from the idea of featuring “real women” and move toward the concept of diversity in women.
In my opinion, I think as individuals and the constant targets of the media that we choose to support, or not support tend to, far to often, allow these media ideals to control our own frame of mind.
Stereotypes are stereotypes no matter the arena. Saying that a women is real or fake according to a bra size is as inaccurate a judgment as saying that a real man is defined by his race or yearly salary.
My stand on it is and has always been that the term “real” is relative and as such must be defined by something beneath the surface.
Do Curves Make You More of A Woman?
No, a woman is woman regardless of her silhouette, which may be less curvaceous than another woman. It is not nice to say “Real Women Have Curves” because it is equivalent to saying “Being Thin is Healthy”, which is a blatant lie. People need to be careful of their choice of words because they can “come off” as a hypocrite.