Lately, some folks have attributed my attitude or moodiness to being pregnant. However, I don’t see it like that. Starting this new chapter in my life I’ve been putting things into perspective as to what really is important. Since being pregnant people have said the craziest things to me. From asking what form of protection failed me, to how am I able to fasten my seat belt. I’ve even had people bring up past events and continue to believe a complete different course of events than what happened.
There have been people in my life that I’ve had to let go of because of their lack of support and true friendship. For awhile I was bitter and angry but I’ve come to realize I’ve given those people more power in my life than they deserved. NO ONE in your life deserves that power to make you sad, frustrated, or angry. At the end of the day they are not as concerned about you or your feelings. So while you can’t sleep still thinking about them, they are fast asleep not thinking about you.
Stop giving people the power and use your energy towards positive things like growth in your own life. Take the power back from those people, brush their actions or words off, pray for them and keep it moving. If not you’ll drive yourself insane.
T Marlene -- Daily Venus Diva.
Good morning T. Marlene,
I read your article with interest, since what you wrote reminded me of people I used to know (and eventually had to let go of), who, in the name of friendship, care and love thought they had to spit out everything that crossed their minds regarding my life.
Even though none of them concerned a pregnancy, I did have an insensitive friend (mother of two who simply said “Sometimes I wish I never had kids” too often) how does it feel to know that I’m never gonna have children (I’m 44, back then 43 and she considers 35 years already countdown for having children)! It was such a relief when I finally kicked her out (over a long series of reasons) and wrote her a 7-page e-mail telling her about it. It felt like what you said: gaining my power back.
I was amazingly shocked to read that people would ask a mother-to-be what way of protection failed, especially if they see her happy about it. Nobody should have the right to throw a wet blanket over what makes you happy. Doesn’t it feel nice to know that such an attitude was the last thing that such people did in your life? Who needs such ‘frenemies’? Or, as an article I read years ago wrote: “Some relationships are like high mountains: you can appreciate them better at a distance and even more knowing you won’t have to climb them again”.
WELL DONE!
Oh, and of course, enjoy this special time in your life and your baby.
thanks and so glad someone could relate