Taking Your “Boyfriend” Home For The Holidays
November 6, 2009 by Daily Venus Diva · Leave a Comment
Whether you are a college student or working far from where you grew up, there is something comforting about going home. Careful consideration should be taken especially if you decide to bring your “special friend” home for the first time to meet your family. While it’s wonderful to see your family members during winter breaks, and you may be excited to share in your happiness, introducing your new significant other during this time may be fraught with hazards.
Let’s face it; the holidays are stressful enough as it is, and perhaps more so for parents. Moms, in particular, are usually responsible for preparing a massive Thanksgiving dinner, more an elaborate production than simple meal, and an additional guest may cause parents more unintentional alarm and nervousness.
If you don’t want your Thanksgiving holiday weekend to resemble a Disney movie gone bad just remember, there are some simple rules to consider when bringing your girlfriend or boyfriend home to meet your family.
First of all, discuss your home situation thoroughly with your friend before making your plane reservations. Now is the time to be brutally honest about any personality quirks with any of your family members. In all probability, your family is just as quirky as the next, but it’s a good idea to bring out any concerns before the trip. Make sure he comprehends any possible pitfalls that may arise from being in your family situation.
Next, a fine touch would be for the boyfriend to bring a token gift. Moms especially would appreciate a thoughtful present, but dads aren’t immune to a little bribery either.
If the parents lay out a pre-planned bedroom arrangement, please, do not fuss about it. Even if you and your boyfriend have been cohabitating for years, don’t complain about the living arrangement. As soon as the weekend is over, your life can go back to normal. After all, you’re staying there for free.
Once mingling with the family, remember that showing your best behavior is worth more in the long run. Simple courtesies, like saying “please” and “thank you” go a long way towards winning over the hearts of the parents, who may be reluctant to share you with your new love – their daughter.
Don’t leave your manners at the door during Thanksgiving dinner. In most casual family settings, you won’t need to know which fork is which, but it is very nice for you to use your napkin. Be respectful of family traditions, such as prayers. In many families, religion plays a key role in holiday activities, and Thanksgiving is not the time to note any differences in your own beliefs.
As for the subject of interpersonal relationships, Thanksgiving and other holidays are also times when many close and extended family members are visiting and you may witness the phenomena of an occasional inside joke or embarrassing personal stories regarding your loved one. Instead of reacting with jealousy or alarm, keep your head.
Finally, when the weekend is over, before saying your goodbyes, ask if your hosts want their bedding stripped. If not, attempt to reconstruct the bedroom into its original condition. Make sure you thank your hosts for sharing their daughter and their Thanksgiving with you. Within a few days of arriving back at your home, compose a short thank you note (yes, written, not computer generated) and mail it.
And just remember, the family is human. They are probably just as nervous as you are. Taking that fact into consideration will go a long way toward a trouble-free Thanksgiving weekend.
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