I’m too consumed with living my life to concern myself with the exact details surrounding Tiger Woods and his altercation with his wife. I will say this…..We (the public) have placed a double standard on men that’s not even funny. It’s actually sad.
You have a man who supposedly cheated on his wife. At least that’s what I heard. Apparently his wife struck him out of anger. What she struck him with is rather irrelevant in my attempt to make a point. While trying to find out what exactly happened, I stumbled upon so many blogs (by women) that made reference to him getting what he deserved.
I know….crazy, right?
Does that mean Rihanna got what she deserved? What about so many other women and men who are hit by the person they consider the love of their live.
Cheating on a person, yelling at a person or nagging a person should never result in you getting hit by a fist, a car or any other object.
I think it’s sad that we (women) come down hard on men when they harm women but are quick to turn the other cheek when the roles are reversed. Wrong is wrong!
In case you’re wondering, “Am I dating a person that could harm me, here are some things to watch out for.
- Listen. Listen when a potential partner talks about his or her life. Is there a hint of things getting out of hand? Talk about breaking things, pushing someone, threats made? Lots of violent people take some strange pride in their behavior. If someone is proud of violent behavior against anyone–but especially someone they were supposed to have loved–run very fast and very far. They are dangerous.
- Watch their tempers. Lots of people have tempers but not all of these have violent tempers. There’s a difference between being ticked off and flying into a rage. Someone with a violent temper will punch walls, slam and break things, kick things, scream at dogs, cats or kids long before they hit you. But don’t be mistaken: People with out-of-control rage will sooner or later find you in their paths. Leave them alone.
- Blaming others is a red flag. Does this person blame someone else for everything? Is it their ex-spouse’s fault they got angry, got drunk, or hit them? Is it your fault if they’re ticked off now? Watch people with really strong and/or unpredictable mood swings. It may be your fault he or she is acting like a lunatic next time.
- Watch for substance abuse. Alcohol and drugs are very often involved in violent behavior. People who can’t control their tempers often can’t control the rest of their behaviors either. Watch out for people who indulge or who act like a different person when drunk or high.
- Don’t be flattered by jealousy. A jealous person is an unreasonable person and a really jealous person is simply a dangerous one. It is not healthy for someone to want you all the time. If this person doesn’t want you around your family or friends, get away from them. What kind of person who loves you wants you to give up everyone else who loves you? This is a sick relationship dynamic. Run–don’t walk–away.
- Watch out for demands and insistence, especially in things that make you uncomfortable. Being pushed into physically or emotionally uncomfortable sex is a really bad sign. This will not improve–it’s usually not the sex this partner wants but the ability to make you do something you don’t want to.
- Get out while you are able to. People are hit, burned, raped and killed by violent partners every single day. Nothing is worth being this kind of a statistic. There is nothing to make this kind of person a risk worth taking. Just get out. There are so many who wait too long and have no choices left at all.
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Valery Amador, Daily Venus Diva -- Daily Venus Diva.
These are great pointers for any relationship.
Love suffers long and is kind; love does not envy; love does not parade itself, is not puffed up; does not behave rudely, does not seek its own, is not provoked, thinks no evil; does not rejoice in iniquity, but rejoices in the truth; bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.
1st Corinth 13: 4-7
Well the truth is now out. He cheated, and yes i think they can move on from this. It’s entirely up to them to mend the broken fences. It’s funny how you think the grass is so much greener on the other side, until you actually hop the fence!
I know how his wife must feel, i’ve been in her shoes. She seems strong and determined to keep the family together. If not, she’s going to take him to the cleaners in divorce court…….