What woman hasn’t been involved at some point with a man who doesn’t understand her, avoids communication, or is basically obsessed with himself and his issues only? He can be charming, fun, and exciting in the beginning but once he knows he has her heart his true colors will eventually emerge and his façade will crack – leaving her in the unenviable position of wondering what happened to that incredible man she fell in love with. Remember, narcissists have two things in common: they depend on a significant other to provide the ego-stroking they crave, and they are addicted to attention. Fear not. Help is on the way!
Lisa Scott, author of It’s All About Him covers a subject that is of great interest to all audiences and readers – dating a narcissistic male. Below you will find six warning signs that you may be dating a narcissistic male.

He’s too good to be true

He possesses all the qualities you’ve been looking for in a mate. He’s handsome, charming and perfect. He almost seems too good to be true. There’s a reason for this old adage, if he seems too good to be true, trust your gut. Nobody is that perfect or possesses all the qualities you’ve been looking for in a mate. Look closer and you’ll see that he’s putting on an act. He has taken on all the qualities he knows you’re looking for in a man in order to win you over.

He talks only about himself

You are most likely dating a narcissist if 80% of the time, the conversation revolves around him. He gives you a lengthy auto-biography about his life, including his school days as star football quarterback. He pauses occasionally to ask you a question about yourself only because he senses he needs to and then quickly finds a way to revert the conversation back to himself. He often refers to himself in the third person.
You will notice a narcissist easily becomes bored in a conversation unless the spotlight is on him. He’ll get a glazed over look in his eyes when others are talking, but suddenly lights up when he gets to talk or the focus returns to him.

He believes he is perfect and always right

One way to recognize a narcissist is to ask him in what ways he thinks he needs to grow or change. A healthy well-adjusted person will give you a list of things they can do to improve themselves. A narcissist, on the other hand, will tell you he has nothing to change. A narcissist believes he is perfect and always right.
Ask him about past relationships and see how he responds. If it’s always the other person’s fault when a relationship ends, you could be dealing with a narcissist. Healthy people can take accountability for their part in a failed relationship. A narcissist cannot. He is always right.

He is obsessed with his image and status symbols

A narcissist has been socialized to identify with a judgmental social system where love is given or withheld based on external criteria. If you’re beautiful, thin and smart, you will be loved. If not, forget it. Therefore, a narcissist is obsessed with his physical image. He will spend hours at the gym, salon and tanning spa to maintain an image of perfection he believes is essential to his survival.
He is preoccupied with status symbols, designer labels, expensive homes and fancy cars. He has an external locus of control and only feels alive when validated by the outside world. He craves attention from others and if he doesn’t get it, he feels dead inside. This is because he has no real sense of self and must have his image reflected back to him at all times in order to feel alive.

He becomes controlling or overly-possessive early on in the relationship

Underneath it all, a narcissist is very insecure. He is not in touch with himself. He projects a puffed-up ego in order to overcompensate for his lack of self. He appears confident, but deep down, he is quite the opposite. As a result, you will notice he has a need to control and possess you very early on in the relationship. He will text and call you frequently and expect you to respond to him immediately.

He lacks empathy

The key indicator of narcissism is lack of empathy. The only feelings a narcissist experiences are the primal gut instincts we all need to survive, such as fear and rage. A narcissist lives in his own reality and sees others as nothing more than objects to be used for his benefit.