It will be 3 yrs in December that I would be celebrating my wedding anniversary; but I’m not. Being honest with yourself and your emotions is a very important key to success and happiness. I have a few friends that think I should just get over it or just pray. I do pray but sometimes you have to know what to pray for to get a result. So the other day I realized I’m still not completely healed from the trauma of my drama. The man that I said yes to and looked forward to embarking on the next phase of my life with. A man who had been there for me when my 2nd mom – my grandmother- passed away. A man who had done hurtful things. Things that aren’t so easy to just ‘get over’. And honestly if you do just get over something like what he did, then maybe you weren’t as much in love as you thought.
While together he had a video of a married female co-worker giving him oral sex on his phone which took place on a guys only weekend trip with other male co-workers. Just somehow, her and her girls showed up. Then his cousin told me he spent the night in the bed of another co-worker. Of course he denied this and said the cousin was just trying to break us up. Who do you trust? Neither. Then we started having physical fights over yet another female. This one was an old co-worker from his hometown. Something about the tone of their conversations didn’t work for me. He and I had a business together and she became one of our clients. In the process of checking emails there happened to be one where she was begging to see him. Not in a ‘I miss my friend’ kind of way. On a blog site she referred to me as his ex and didn’t understand why I even cared. I made a point to let her know that I was not his ex, but still his fiancé whom he still shared a bed. She was floored and decided to leave him alone. Being older and having a 7 yr daughter she didn’t even want to waste her time. But the smooth talker worked magic on her. Not only did he move back to his hometown but he proposed to her so he could secure a place to stay…with her. While I was still healing from physical bruises on my body, pretending at work that everything was fine, and working my behind off to secure my promotion, he proposed and got married. So I’m sorry but you don’t just get over that.
We Aries tend to fall in and out of love but when we love, we love hard. Some say why did I put up with all of that? Well honestly, there was a debate on the inside of me. Was I to be the praying wife? The one that kept on her knees until something happened or was I to just walk away. I did a mixture of both. During the entire thing I stayed in constant prayer and meditation. I felt robbed of my ability to truly grieve my grandmother’s passing dealing with him. I believed God would make a way that wouldn’t put me in any further hurt, harm or danger. And He did. So 3 yrs later I have to admit that I am not fully healed but I know that admitting this has done me good.
So regardless of the issues you’ve faced in your own life, just be honest with at least yourself, first and foremost. Then wait for the final healing of those wounds.
T Marlene -- Daily Venus Diva.
Whoa! Okay lady you shocked me with this. I’m sorry that you had to go thru that. I don’t think it’s up to us to get over things like this. You don’t get over it because that’s says it was okay it happened. But it is up to us to get past it. Move forward, learn from it, and restore our faith in whatever it is that we may have lost at that time.
Just know babe that YOU ROCK!
girl i stayed prayed up the whole time. when he left i got a promotion, new car, and started my commercial modeling career lol