Each day websites like eHarmony.com or Match.com send women and men looking for love a list of potential matches. Their smile is quickly turned to a frown when they realize that their plus size frame is not their preferred type of build.
When women do connect with men online, many of them are quick to let men know that they are a Big Beautiful Woman and while many of these men are polite in their responses, some don’t bother to speak with the women ever again.
Some women even lie about their profiles for fear of being rejected. In one instance a man flew a woman to see him and when he saw that she was a plus size woman, he demanded she reimburse him for the flight.
The dating show “More to Love” suggests that love comes in all shapes and sizes, but plus-size singles say their weight sometimes gets in the way of finding love online, even though two-thirds of Americans are overweight or obese.
Many people that I know find the claim that your weight affects your love life to be a bit extreme, myself included. However, a recent study disagrees with my way of thinking.
Studies show that people who are overweight face discrimination in many areas, including work, education, health care and even from families and friends, according to Peggy Howell of the National Association to Advance Fat Acceptance. Dating seems to be no different.
Do you agree or disagree? What has your experience been in the dating world? Have you ever used an online dating service to find a mate and what was the outcome?
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i disagree disagree disagree. it’s about your personality/your confidence/the way you carry yourself and where are you looking for these dates.
by studies i could say i’m on the losing end. i’m fat and black. but i believe the fact that i’m single right now has nothing to do with neither. i’ve been in relationships unlike the boo woo-ing women on ‘more to love’. i’ve been in long relationships too. i’ve met people online and offline…met crazy people in person too. you can argue that i’m the minority but the women i know and hang with fit that same category as i do.
I totally agree with TMarlene.
Women regardless of size need to stop believing all this hype.
I am always skeptical of these studies.
And besides that, there are so many factors that come into play when it comes to relationships and they all generally start with how you feel about yourself.
So if your weight is an issue for you, then it will most likely be so for other people that you come in contact with.
Alright T Marlene and Goody!!
Being Black, Beautiful and THICK!!!!FAT!!!VOLUMPTOUS!!! or whatever ythey call it whatever-when you meet Tiff you get the real thing! Yes the old saying still exists “its all about whats inside” and I still agree. NAd yes I have a preference BUT its not to the extreme. My heart drops as I hear all sisters say I have to lose weight to keep him or meet him, WHY? Do you! Love you! In order for me to feel this as i type I was that insecure woman…not anymore. even on days when I feel blah (we all know) I still get the looks not asking for it or looking for it but it is what it is. DO YOU!! LOVE YOU!! and lift up your sister, cousin, best friend and tell her to love herself FIRST!!
First I don’t believe wait is a problem if you luv yourself then you will not let that stand in your way. I have no problems in dating my problem is boys pretending to be men. I’ve used a dating site and had lots of fun my picture is true to form and it let’s them know if you can’t handle Big n Beautiful click to someone else cause losing wait don’t live here. Much Luv to the Big Girls………
I would have to disagree with this article. Throughout high school I was a size 16 I never got asked out. By the time i was in college I had dates left and right. By this time i was a size 18. I got asked out all the time. Now that I’m a size 18/20 I still have no problem getting a date. I date all races too. I do believe it has to do with confidence and how you fell about yourself. If you feel bad about your self that shows through for everyone to see.