Opening the door for a woman is one thing, but have you ever been escorted to bathroom in the name of love? I can’t say whether walking me to the restroom would creep me out or not but hearing that a celebrity displayed this type of extreme chivalrous behavior prompted Kate Torgovnick of TheFrisky.com to write this very cute and necessary list to live by.
*Ordering my meal for me. This has always struck me as bizarro, because chances are you don’t know what I want. The only time this is cool is if I have no idea how to pronounce something and you do.
*Letting me win at a game of Scrabble/pool/bowling when you are clearly better. No fun! Please give it your best shot. I want the satisfaction of really beating you.
*Using a code term for going to the bathroom. Especially retro words like “tinkle.” You can just say, “I’ll be back in a minute.” I’ll get it.
*Pulling out my chair. Someone told me this tradition started when women wore loads of crinolines and, thus, scooting in your chair was difficult. That’s no longer the case. It just makes me nervous that you won’t push it in at the right moment and I’ll land on the ground with a thud.
*Carrying my purse. Yeah, it’s heavy, but I’m pretty used to it at this point. You carrying it just looks funny. I have enough of a hard time with purses.
*Asking my dad for my hand in marriage. So outdated. Pops just shouldn’t be involved in our relationship. No one should know you want to marry them before they do.
*If you’re paying for dinner, not letting me put in for tip. Or get a round of drinks after. If I offer, it’s because I want to. I swear.
*Helping me put me coat on. This is sweet, but it’s always awkward because my hand misses the sleeve or gets stuck somewhere in there. It’s easier to just do it on my own.
Valery Amador, Daily Venus Diva -- Daily Venus Diva.
I think creepy is too strong a word for some of these. The coat or chair scenario could lead to something awkward, but in nice restaurants even the waiters will pull out your chair. If you’re going to be doing that level of dining, I think it’s better to learn the female end of that etiquette and know when to sit or heck, how to put your arm in a coat that’s being offered. And if a guy is taking me out, I’m fine with letting him pay for everything. If we’re splitting, then we’ll do that, and if I’m paying, same deal. If he’s paying, I don’t need to tip. If I want to get drinks for us later then that’s fine, but him paying and the woman tipping is a little strange to me.
yea i dont agree with all these. pulling out the chair for me is something i expect. my male friends even do this for me. helping with my coat is the same thing. asking dad for hand – well it would be my mom but i actually want that. mom doesn’t even have to agree with it or say yes. it’s the fact that he sat down and talked to my mom. its the effort. him paying and me tipping – done that before – doesnt bother me at all. now holding my purse when we go shopping is different from carrying my purse lol…i’m cool with holding not carrying.
While I agree that many of these are outdated or sort of creepy, I couldn’t disagree more with the coat issue. I really do appreciate my partner doing so, particularly in a crowded place. Nothing is more embarassing than swinging your coat around and whapping someone with it. At least when he helps me, I appear a bit more graceful.
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i get my purse carried, chair pulled out, my dinner paid for and my coat put on a regular basis and love it!
and honestly the only one i find creepy is the meal ordering…although i do order my honeys food most of the time!
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Pulling out my chair, helping me put my coat on and paying for dinner is very romantic to me. I like being spoiled sometimes. Yes, I am able to do these things myself but occassionally these are nice gestures.