Romancing Your Man: 7 Ways To Turn Up The Heat

Romancing Your Man: 7 Ways To Turn Up the Heat

lovenote When it comes to romance, guys get a bad rap. But men can be just as romantic as women, though they often express it in different ways.

1. Compliments. The quickest path to a man’s heart is through his ego. Tell him how sexy he is. He would love that! A political consultant from Washington, D.C. says: “The most romantic thing in the world is for you to be in awe of your man’s skills — whether it’s his ability to make people laugh, perform at sports, fix things, or retrieve and display esoteric knowledge. Let him wow you,” he says.

2. Dark chocolate. Milk chocolate is for kids. Dark chocolate is for lovers. Dark chocolate has a higher percentage of cocoa, which means it has more phenylethylamine, a chemical that mimics the feeling you have when you’re in love.

3. Hard-to-find gifts. Is his college sweatshirt so faded you can’t decipher the name of his alma mater? Is he mourning the loss of a rare comic book that his mother threw away when he left home? Does he collect antique hood ornaments? A gift that requires some effort is sure to be a big hit with your guy. Men and women tend to express love differently. Women are usually the more nurturing types and tend to think of romance in terms of ‘soft touches’ while men express love in more practical ways.

4. You, in his clothes. Come to the dinner table wearing nothing but his button-down dress shirt. Now that’s romance!

5. Funny movies. A lot of people say that shared values or goals are what make a relationship work. But to me it’s a shared sense of humor. When you can find someone to laugh with, then you know you’re really connecting.

6. Surprise intimacy. Whether it’s an unexpected kiss or an afternoon jaunt to the bedroom, men swoon when women say “Come hither.” They like surprises — like when you initiate sex at odd times, or rent a room in the middle of the day.

7. P.S. I love you. They may not always admit it, but many men report that they love getting affectionate little notes. He loves getting a surprise note or email with an affectionate message, and says that a “p.s.” increases the charm. There’s something about the p.s. that people respond to. P.S. I love you, or the note our high-school sweetheart stuffed into our locker.