I often watch the T.O. Show on VH1. If you’re not familiar, VH1 follows Terrell Owens as he gets his life on track after being let go by the Dallas Cowboys and heading to the Buffalo Bills. I really didn’t know if I would like the show when it originally aired but I must say that it manages to keep me entertained. Add his friends and Publicists Kita & Mo to the mix and you get that motherly and much needed female vibe.
On a recent episode of the show Terrell goes on a date with Jessica White, a Victoria’s Secret model and she is very adamant on paying for their bill. I don’t know why she insists but a number of reasons enter my head. She’s either a control freak who likes to take charge of the situations that she’s in or she wants it to be known that she is not after his money and can stand on her own two feet. My guess is option #2.
It was rather obvious that Terrell wasn’t completely cool with Jessica paying for the date and it got me thinking. Men say they want a woman that’s not a gold digger but when a woman tries to take care of him by paying for both of them, he can’t handle it. What exactly do you think a man responds to? The woman who needs the man for everything? The woman who can handle everything herself? Or, a combination of the two?
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i think there is a line…men want to be providers and thats something we, in society, use to measure a man–his ability to provide for his family. so we can be independent but not too independent because they feel like ‘well what do you need me for’. i read steve harvey’s book, and he touches on this as well. there are ways we can ‘take care’ of them but it doesnt have to be by snatching the check at a restaurant causing a scene—i saw this episode too…
i typically buy them things as tokens of appreciation, cook meals, etc. with my ex-fiance we once went out with my mom and he hadnt gotten paid yet but before we were even around my mom, i gave him the money so when dinner was over he was able to pay the entire bill for us all. things like that men appreciate.
I think this goes toward the whole “chivalry is dead” thing. T.O. was right to feel uncomfortable about a woman paying for his meal. I didn’t see the episode but if it was a date why wouldn’t he pay for it? The reason SOME of these men are sorry is because women are busy trying to prove that they can do it bigger and better. We know we are smarter. Primetime is full of shows about how we have way more sense than they do, but us women can’t be satisfied with knowing we also have to put it in their faces. I am fine with knowing, however I am not fine with opening my door, pumping my gas, taking out the trash, and paying for my dates. It has gotten to the point that some of these men don’t even try anymore. They are trying to see what they can get out of it whether it be some new tennis shoes, a game system, or tires for there car. Men should feel ashamed and embarrassed asking a woman to pay their way. Now if you know your man is broke that’s a whole other situation….
you are right some men dont even try anymore because we fight to be so independent….i knew a woman where her man told her there wasnt anything he could do for her beause she was so independent so when they went on a cruise she paid for him and his daughter..but he made more money than her….