There is an evil side to me; there is this part (tiny) of me that slightly likes the fact that I’m smaller than her now. We can’t share clothes like we used too. My mom, she was a model, not a plus model, a stick thin, twiggy model. I was heavy all my life, well age 7 on.
She had me on Weight Watchers by the time I was ten. Skim milk, frozen yogurt, weigh-ins, and meetings. Then we joined Bally’s. Weight loss has been one of the main clouds I’ve sat under majority of my life, like many of you. It was a double edged sword moment the day we could share clothes. I was a teen and she in her 30s. She had gained weight, and then eventually I started to bypass her again. My mid 20s I started losing weight, and I’d hear “great, keep going.” That statement frustrated me to no end. Why can’t it just be “great”?
Well now I’m smaller, much smaller than her. So at times I find myself giving her a hard time about her weight. Nothing to would hurt feelings. No name calling, just asking when she’s going drop a few pounds. She wants to have weight loss surgery done. I don’t agree. I don’t think this is an option for everyone. I don’t care if by mathematical numbers you are considered morbidly obese. By my mental sanity there is nothing wrong with individuals doing it the natural hardworking way. I even told her she needs to change her eating habits. She eats out at restaurants which doesn’t do much for portion control nor calorie intake. I support whatever decision she makes but its ironic how now I’m counseling her on how to lose weight, because she used to be thin.
T Marlene -- Daily Venus Diva.
I think you need to be more supportive. As a size 24 woman now considering weight-loss surgery, I struggle on a daily basis with the food I eat. It’s hard keeping the pounds off. Sometimes diets don’t work. According to the International Journal of Obesity, 95-98% of dieters who lose 75 pounds or more gain back every single pound within 5 years. But I’ve heard of people who had weight loss surgery and kept the weight off for longer than 5 years so you should reconsider your stance. Good luck to your mom!